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Y’all know I like to keep it real around here. You get to see my fun trip posts and my planner posts and my happy life posts, but I also like to share the behind-the-scenes look. The unfiltered view. In the past, I have shared about my infertility struggles and not long ago, I shared our adoption announcement. In that post, I did share a little bit about what led us to choose adoption, but it was the technical story and this is the emotional one.
We didn’t decided to adopt because of infertility. We moved forward with our adoption plans, after attempting fertility treatments. In other words, adoption was always part of the plan, it was just a matter of when. That being said, you can make as many plans as you want, but until you are going through the adoption process, you can’t truly understand what the struggle is like.
And the struggle is real, my friends.
I want to show you what this path to motherhood is truly like. If you are deciding whether or not, you need/want to adopt, you should know the truth.
It’s hard, painful, and messy.
It makes you have to grow a thick skin and then turn around and have to soften it again.
It gets your hopes so high, that you think you might burst from excitement, and then drops you down so low, that you hit the ground, with a resounding thud.
It doesn’t make sense and it constantly leaves you questioning…”why?”
It’s not a cure for infertility. It’s not a fairytale ending. No one makes it out unscathed.
Adoptive parents are not saviors. They are ordinary people, that feel called to adopt children, that need a family. Adoptive parents are not somehow protected from pain. They don’t have super powers.
This is why I dislike the, “Why don’t you just adopt?” question.
There is no just adopting. Adoption is not Plan B. The timing may come later in life, but it is not a second choice and it is most definitely not a decision to be made lightly.
The truth is, as hard as the adoption process is on the parents, it’s that much harder on the children involved. Adoption isn’t about us. It’s about them. The orphaned children, that need forever families. No one gave them a choice.
So, why did I choose adoption? I didn’t.
Adoption chose me.
I felt it with everything in me. This is our path. It’s not the easiest one and it’s not the most perfect one, but it’s ours.
And I will be forever blessed with the opportunity to raise any child, that comes into my life, through adoption.
Until next time!