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To many people, November is a month of Thanksgiving, family, and holiday plans. But, what you may not know is, November is also Adoption Awareness Month. This month is all about opening society’s eyes to families that don’t look the same. It’s not about celebration. It’s about acknowledging that there are children, in this world, that have experienced loss. Those children need parents and families to step up and invite them in. They need a voice. Adoption Awareness Month, is about shedding some light on a different route to creating a family. It’s not all sunshine and flowers, but it is raw and real.
It’s easy to share photos on social media and type out a few nice words and then forget about it. I’m guilty of this, when it comes to a lot of “awareness”. I think it helps, when real people, tell their real stories. I already shared our adoption announcement and a little bit about why we chose to adopt, in the first place. Today, I wanted to share how I feel about Adoption Awareness month and what our journey has been like, so far.
If you are not familiar with adoption, first hand, you have probably heard a lot of mixed things. You may have friends that have adopted, in the past. Maybe a distant family member or an old neighbor adopted and you heard some secondhand stories.
When we first started telling people about our decision to adopt, we heard every good, bad, and crazy story there was. For some reason, saying that you are adopting, is a major conversation starter. Everyone has an opinion. Everyone has questions. And everyone has a unique adoption-related story.
This isn’t all bad. After all, talking about it, is how we spread awareness. I am happy to answer questions and I am excited to share my experiences. Just know, that some questions, shouldn’t be asked and some experiences shouldn’t be shared.
Also, please…please do not share your so-called “personal” experiences, unless you have adopted yourself or you are an adoptee. When a couple announces that they are adopting, the last thing they need to hear about, is how your old coworker had three matches fall through and waited three years and had so many problems. It may be the truth, but that doesn’t mean you should say it.
Adoption Awareness is about loving on those families that were brought together through adoption. Whether it’s through domestic infant adoption, international adoption, or adoption from the foster care system. These families need your support and not your judgement. In most cases, they need a hug and not your “advice”.
At the heart of the matter, Adoption Awareness, is about the children. It’s about acknowledging the fact that they had to go through loss, hurt, and trauma, to even be placed for adoption. It’s about God taking the fragmented pieces of a painful situation and turning it into something beautiful. Adoption Awareness is about finding Forever Families, for the children that need them.
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Update on Our Adoption Journey
I wanted to wrap this post up, with an update, for those that have been keeping up with us. We have had one failed match. We were hoping and praying that it would work out, but now we have grieved and moved forward. That child will be placed in a loving and caring home. It just won’t be ours. We continue to wait and pray for guidance and patience. We have faith that it will all work out, according to God’s plan. Honestly, I think Justin and I are less anxious, than our waiting family. We are confident in this: “He who began a good work in you, will carry it on to completion…” (Philippians 1:6)
When you see the photos on social media and the kind words about Adoption Awareness Month, I hope you will stop and say a prayer, for all those involved in the adoption process. Parents and children. If you are close to a family that has adopted, reach out and offer some encouragement. I’m sure they won’t turn it down.
Until next time!